
Learning from Maria
Yeah, learning from Maria. Maria here, not Maria the holy mother, or Maria the nanny at The sound of music or Maria Mercedes from soap opera. Maria is my little sister. Actually, she is my little cousin. Her father who passed away summer last year, was my father cousin. For Acehnese, everybody is family.
I do not have many memories about little Maria. She was born when I was a senior high school student. What I still remember is she and her family always comes to my house on Hari Raya (Ied) or other family occasion. They spent lots of time in my grandmother’s room. Our grandma was too old and spent most of her time at bed. I like them, because not like other grandchild who just come for a few minutes and run away. But, at that time, I have not much time to speak with little Maria. I was too busy with my activities. I just talked with her father or her mother. Maybe because she is too young, hehe…Her mother is a nice lady. Always smile, a great mother and a right friend for sharing or talking. I spent more time to talk with her mother than her. Maria’s mom is a teacher. Maria almost look like her mother, except her India face, it is from her father.
I almost have no stories; no memories with little Maria until she grows up and became a student at university. At that time, I was far away from home. I heard the story about her and family from my mom. I gave my email, then, we communicate each other.
I remember, she was very angry and always complaining (like most of my best friends did) about my ex-boy friend attitude (She doesn’t know that I had already broke with him). She told me everything she knew about him. “Maria, it is not my problems anymore. He is not my boy friend anymore. So I don’t care what he did and who is he with. He gets married, divorce, has affairs, talking bad about me to anybody. I don’t care. I just feel lucky because I am not his girl friend anymore and not married him yet. God has save me from him. So just let him away.”
Maria still tells me everything. Haha…. Especially when I back home and meet her. She is younger than me, but she can be a good partner for discussion or cheating. I am proud of her. She is smart, easy going, friendly and religious. She told me some of her secrets, too.
Little Maria becomes a sweet university student. She is very popular among her friends. Like me, most of her friends are boys.
I heard from my mom, that Maria gets a scholarship and move to a private university in Jakarta. It is a brave and good decision, I think. She left her 2nd grade at Syiah Kuala University. She is smart enough, so wherever she studies, she still in the top rank. She proved it. In Jakarta, she become at the top rank has lots of friends, popular, and still religious. Hehe…charming Maria!
On December 26 2005, tsunami had occurred in Aceh.
Tsunami destroyed our hometown and took away lots of our relatives.
Maria’s mom, little brother and little sister were taken away to another world, to the house of God. Their bodies never are found. Maria’s house was destroying. Maria lost everything. She only has one little brother left, Boy. They were saved because they were in Jakarta when disaster occurred. Thanks God.
I do not know how Maria & Boy feeling when they heard about this tragedy. I do not know too, how are they when they back to Aceh, to their house and found nothing. And I do not want to ask her about it.
When I back to Aceh, a month after the tragedy, I met both of them. They look strong and no change. She looks like anything never happen. Maria doesn’t change! Maria is still talkative; share her smiles to everyone and asking me lots of question. Unbelievable! How great you are! I never see her crying, except when she is praying at night. (Maybe she is crying, but never in front anybody). She stay at my house, go around with me to tsunami area, talking about everything, manage and take over her family responsibility. Then she is going back to Jakarta and continue her life…
She is just twenty years old when it was happened in her life. She is a university student when the tragedy took everything away from her. She is tough and courageous. She faces everything with braveness. She is really great!
Everything is belonging to the God. God can take them away anytime. We belong to the God, too. So, just believe in God. God never let you in suffering. God will take care of you.
The way she faces the tragedy, the way she continue her life, the way she share her smile to everyone. Maria…I am really proud of her. She is young but mature. She had taught me how to face the life with spirit. I am learning from her. When I feel depress, she send me email and cheer my spirit up: “You have to be strong and never give up! You are my sister and you are an Acehnese girl!”
Learning from Maria…
“Family is the best supporter of our life, especially our parents. But if they were not here anymore, it doesn’t mean we have to stop our life and give up in sadness. We have to continue our life, send prayers to them, and make them proud of us. Their life were short, but very meaningful, because they made and bring us here.”
Learning from Maria…
Although many bad things were happened, it doesn’t mean we will not have any happiness. Life is so beautiful and full with happiness. What we need to do is just to get it. Create our own happiness and just believe God always loves us.
Learning from Maria…
Fill your lives with many good things and never give up!
(Kyoto, July 2005)